tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post2067273248287662510..comments2023-11-22T02:46:00.426-06:00Comments on our surrogacy adventure: The "What IFs"Jaymeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05386596837111351204noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-73963354896733365522010-05-17T20:45:59.212-05:002010-05-17T20:45:59.212-05:00I don't think when we dream of motherhood do w...I don't think when we dream of motherhood do we ever pause to think about the difficult times... we picture our children being perfect and wonderful. The beauty is... they are more perfect and wonderful than they are the opposite. I can speak from a lot of experience when I say that the good times you will cherish and the bad times you will learn to take with humor. Perhaps taking spur of the moment trips is fun... but then you realize you really can do those things with your children... especially before they begin school and you won't be able to imagine your life the way it was before you had them. I remember sleeping more... but I've found a balance between my husband and I that works for us. That way we both get sleep. Try taking shifts. One day you take the baby, the next day he does... that way you are both getting an entire night sleep at first. It does wonders for sanity knowing that you will be able to have that break. And you will need breaks. Regardless of how much you love them... you will need time apart. It's healthy that way. Good luck!mckala7https://www.blogger.com/profile/05300123088491525033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-49570359293736696242010-05-12T05:03:20.240-05:002010-05-12T05:03:20.240-05:00Hi, I wouldnt worry about these thoughts. Just bec...Hi, I wouldnt worry about these thoughts. Just because you have had to become a mum in a more difficult way, it doesnt mean you are not entitled to have the same thoughts and worries as any other mother. If anything they may be stronger as you are not having your baby naturally, so you may worry it was not meant to be.<br />However it wouldn't have worked if it wasn't meant to be! So know you deserve this and are entitled to feel like any mother does! <br />I am right at the start of the surrogacy journey, your blog gives me hope and I love your honesty xxMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980696682184070600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-86258358454048969662010-05-06T08:04:37.752-05:002010-05-06T08:04:37.752-05:00This post speaks to me. So profoundly. We are in t...This post speaks to me. So profoundly. We are in the same boat - trying with another woman's eggs and hopefully another woman's womb. I am so forever grateful to the people that have continued to come together to help us create a family but there IS that nagging feeling of, WHY are we pushing so many envelopes? Why are we trying so hard? Is nature trying to tell me something I don't want to hear? Maybe I'm not *meant* to be a mother? But dammit, I can't stop trying. Because there ARE choices and there are opportunities left. And I just can't bear the what ifs if we don't try. They are harder than the ones I ask myself now.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-78756492783838948832010-05-03T13:26:45.897-05:002010-05-03T13:26:45.897-05:00I can promise you once that child gets here, you w...I can promise you once that child gets here, you will wonder how you ever had those thoughts. You won't mind getting up in the middle of the night for a sick child because your motherly intincts will kick in. You will look at your child's sweet little face and think, "You were worth it all."<br /><br />You are going to make a GREAT mother Jaymee. The fact that you went through so much to bring this child into the world is a testiment to that.Saigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09274842769323024702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-55723026649072240562010-05-03T10:17:35.865-05:002010-05-03T10:17:35.865-05:00I'm not sure there's ever a day you will N...I'm not sure there's ever a day you will NOT second-guess motherhood. I know I don't. ;) <br /><br />But this I know... you will be a good Mama!!rarejulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07569577240916832689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-35268510351039630452010-05-02T22:41:40.912-05:002010-05-02T22:41:40.912-05:00You are not alone - I do think that many mothers-t...You are not alone - I do think that many mothers-to-be ask these questions. All I can say is that I have read your posts for a while now, and I know that you will do more than fine. You will do great. You will be a wonderful, loving, caring mom. Yes, sometimes you'll need some time to yourself. Who doesn't? That's what sitters are for :-) I just know that you will be an amazing mom.FET Accomplihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022601632796340799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-23001295002260942122010-05-02T12:54:40.973-05:002010-05-02T12:54:40.973-05:00Oh sweetie, no one and I do mean no one dreams of ...Oh sweetie, no one and I do mean no one dreams of the sick or inconsolable child. Those moments are hell. The questions you are asking yourself are completely normal. {{{Hugs}}}Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-3629423578802322010-05-02T11:29:56.582-05:002010-05-02T11:29:56.582-05:00Jaymee,
This statement: "I worry that I will ...Jaymee,<br />This statement: "I worry that I will just be overwhelmed, that what my heart tells me is what I was born to do become something that I am unable to handle." could've been ripped from my journal this week. We are fostering another newborn and he is high-maintenance, and I am very tired. I wonder if I would feel this way if he were my own child. If maybe God hasn't given us a child because He knows we couldn't do it. I also really enjoy the impromptu dates and trips with my husband and friends, and will miss those! I also secretly wonder if all those Kodak moments that make you go aww are worth all the exhaustion, laundry and hard work! I think it is. I quiet my thoughts, focus on the immediate now and push the questions back into their file. <br />I look forward to reading about your baby coming home and how your questions get answered or erased!Anna Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06623013797835397745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-18499900704147307672010-05-02T01:44:49.526-05:002010-05-02T01:44:49.526-05:00Mama. You will be fine. I promise.
<3Mama. You will be fine. I promise. <br /><br /><3Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00980369680517012936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-17416834623206067592010-05-02T01:29:20.642-05:002010-05-02T01:29:20.642-05:00Every woman on the cusp of motherhood has these th...Every woman on the cusp of motherhood has these thoughts. Some may never admit it, but it’s true. And some have the thoughts no only with their first, but with the subsequent children as well. It’s part of the process. Part of the brain sorting out priorities. No, you will not enjoy every moment of motherhood. I *still* cannot stand being awakened at night. I despise it. But I am accustomed to it and I deal with it when it comes. And you will, too. because no mother is abad mother, who spends this much time being aware and conscious of her own thoughts about motherhood.Yolandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12388052616712145572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-81484491128121162142010-05-02T01:21:01.068-05:002010-05-02T01:21:01.068-05:00The biggest mistake you could make is beating your...The biggest mistake you could make is beating yourself up for NORMAL FEELINGS. It doesn't matter how hard it was or what hoops had to be leapt through to put your babe in your arms. There WILL be days when you NEED a break-that is normal, human nature! There WILL be days when you NEED to complain and vent about your child-even though he is the LIGHT of your life! Parenting is HARD and in order to step back in the ring after a particularly rough round, you MUST vent, complain, take a breather, so that you can get back in there and work your butt off being the absolute best parent you can be!<br />It doesn't matter HOW you became a mother. You are a mother and mother's need a break every now and then!<br />You will continue to be amazed at how much you love that little child!Cynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11484266497636150659noreply@blogger.com