tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post2655995818125292713..comments2023-11-22T02:46:00.426-06:00Comments on our surrogacy adventure: a bad day in surrogacy - landJaymeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05386596837111351204noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-67979223697817471942008-07-20T01:51:00.000-05:002008-07-20T01:51:00.000-05:00A subject dear to my heart. I have heard enough n...A subject dear to my heart. I have heard enough nonsense coming from people who have no idea what infertility is like and commented on 'the things I did' to become a parent to write a frigging book! Everybody's a critic, he?<BR/><BR/>You're doing a beautiful thing. <BR/><BR/>The good news is that I thought infertility was so traumatic that I would never recover from it, but then your baby arrive and magically you forget, you really forget.<BR/><BR/>You even forgive the ignoramuses, but that takes a bit longer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-72902879164929609472008-07-14T12:22:00.000-05:002008-07-14T12:22:00.000-05:00I found your blog from a comment you made on BlogH...I found your blog from a comment you made on BlogHer answering why you keep a blog. <BR/><BR/>I am a GS who has also suffered through a minor degree of infertility, so I can understand how you are feeling on many different levels. <BR/><BR/>I will be reading more and thinking of you often as you continue on your surrogacy journey.JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-20295732469062459292008-07-14T11:13:00.000-05:002008-07-14T11:13:00.000-05:00A truly kick-ass post!As someone who has experienc...A truly kick-ass post!<BR/><BR/>As someone who has experienced infertility I can honestly say that there is good value to allowing yourself to feel any emotions that pop up. If you are angry, then be angry. If you feel the need to be alone, then do that. Nothing is served by feeling guilty about your emotional state. You are entitled to some patience with yourself, just as you are entitled to your own unique emotional life.<BR/><BR/>It's been a while since I had my last baby and all the shit we had to do to get there still pisses me off sometimes. <BR/><BR/>So. This is me telling you that you are allowed to be pissed, depressed, irritated, scared, jubilant, incontinent and gassy. Anytime, for any reason. You may feel free to take time for yourself, smother your emotions with ice cream and old movies, or shop till you drop. You are allowed these things as a woman, a mother (which you are, you know) and a human. So there.The Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05473465922682305315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-22787434136475196142008-07-14T07:20:00.000-05:002008-07-14T07:20:00.000-05:00Hi Jaymee, My husband and I are pursuing surroga...Hi Jaymee, <BR/> My husband and I are pursuing surrogacy too. We are matched and hope to cycle next month.<BR/><BR/>I completely agree that it's ok to be angry. Sometimes I think I need the anger to get me through the rough days.KH99https://www.blogger.com/profile/03103965236771370684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-82666733787244107632008-07-13T11:55:00.000-05:002008-07-13T11:55:00.000-05:00thank you for sharing your thoughts and creating y...thank you for sharing your thoughts and creating you blog- it will help women make the right choices by giving them insights into your experience.<BR/><BR/>TheVancouverManifesto<BR/>http://thevancouvermanifesto.blogspot.com/2008/07/outsourcing-womens-wombs-surrogacy-in.html*https://www.blogger.com/profile/11224015455808107569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-15093532206106568742008-07-13T11:02:00.000-05:002008-07-13T11:02:00.000-05:00youre right. its not fair, and you dont deserve i...youre right. its not fair, and you dont deserve it. but you are handling this with such grace and intelligence and empathy. its ok to be angry; there are some really crazy folks out there who just loooove scandal and will turn any uncommon situation that they dont understand into something salacious. ugh. <BR/>as for the women who do the fetus carrying, im amazed. they really are models of selflessness, and should be honored.<BR/>you too, mama.<BR/>every time i read your blog i think about your future child reading it and think about how lucky he/she will be to have this record of your love and sacrifice.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08373601708112028912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-19385497498979991972008-07-12T14:25:00.000-05:002008-07-12T14:25:00.000-05:00I have days like this too. They just flat out hurt...I have days like this too. They just flat out hurt. It always seems like when I'm having one of those days, I inevitably get an email or a phone from any of my friends saying "Congratulate me, I'm going to be a mom/grandmom/aunt/sister or whatever." Or one saying so-n-so is pregnant again and doesn't need another kid. Ugggg!!! <BR/><BR/>Anyway...stay strong. I feel that if this is meant to be for women like us, then it WILL happen but not in any set schedule that we can control.Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15705429522550479433noreply@blogger.com