tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post6307726032954627612..comments2023-11-22T02:46:00.426-06:00Comments on our surrogacy adventure: StolenJaymeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05386596837111351204noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-82163530403271185862009-11-07T23:12:50.799-06:002009-11-07T23:12:50.799-06:00Very, very petty. I am sorry for this person who ...Very, very petty. I am sorry for this person who considers you a friend. You are no friend.<br />It is time to look past your own selfishness and realize life goes on for others and they have the right to name their children anything they want to without your permission.<br />You are the only selfish one in this entire scenario.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-1028567474329669712009-10-27T12:19:27.464-05:002009-10-27T12:19:27.464-05:00Yay for keeping the name, yay for keeping your dre...Yay for keeping the name, yay for keeping your dream. I'm dreaming of a daughter named Sophie. And with every Sophie that is born I think "see! it can be!" And I wouldn't be stealing the name from my mother, it would be honoring my mother. naming after my mother. So in this twisted universe I'd think of them as naming after a friend, only before instead of after.<br />May your dreams come true.Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-66174497910177556602009-10-13T04:54:33.942-05:002009-10-13T04:54:33.942-05:00I think your feelings are more about all of the ot...I think your feelings are more about all of the other things you've lost, and as someone with PCOS I have some understanding of what it is like to have my body fail me at the most basic function of what a woman's body is supposed to do. <br /><br />I think your friend using your baby name is annoying, but not that big of a deal. Maybe they always had it in mind, or just really liked it. No one owns a name and even if they did get the idea from you, I suppose from their perspective, you and your surrogate aren't pregnant yet and you might have a boy so maybe they thought no big deal. <br /><br />Good luck on your journey. :)nonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00853580671358283857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-21166128920793619162009-10-12T20:58:59.034-05:002009-10-12T20:58:59.034-05:00I'm sorry she took the name. But am glad you ...I'm sorry she took the name. But am glad you are going to keep it.<br /><br />I have laid awake many nights in bed wondering if I should have even went down the road to having children being the age I am (37). Calculating how old I would be when my baby is 10, 20, etc. How long would I be around? It just makes me down in the dumps, so I stopped thinking about it and am just looking forward to all of the time that I will have with my husband and baby. If not, I would go bonkers. <br /><br />I hope you're feeling better.<br /><br />I'm thinking of you.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01725762259158149798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-88556568382495367562009-10-12T14:58:35.784-05:002009-10-12T14:58:35.784-05:00How sad that someone felt the need to undermine yo...How sad that someone felt the need to undermine you and steal the name you chose for your daughter. Just because our children don't exist yet doesn't mean that their names we choose aren't special. <br />I loved this post, it spoke to me in many ways. Our paths may be different, but the feelings are so alike. <br />There is a little something for you on my blog :) .Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18028385789654418050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-744807851729817892009-10-11T22:07:54.632-05:002009-10-11T22:07:54.632-05:00Like others, I'm absolutely furious for you. ...Like others, I'm absolutely furious for you. I cannot believe someone would do something like that, especially after you asked them not to use the name. This isn't like it was an uncanny coincidence - they knew! Ugh!<br /><br />I'm glad that you will still use the name.<br /><br />You hit so many things on the head for me in this post - it is thoughtful and poignant. Thank you.Fertility Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16909012164684855077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-83047101287721935692009-10-10T20:14:49.458-05:002009-10-10T20:14:49.458-05:00I'll even articulate it a little further--the ...I'll even articulate it a little further--the hurt that you're feeling, which I know sounds petty and silly, but is really and truly a betrayal--and that is this: By using the name that you had chosen for your child, your <i>friend</i> is dismissing your dream. She has a live baby and the name you've chosen is feminine and beautiful. "Why should she save it for your baby?" she thinks, "A baby that may never come." That is the message she is sending to you. And I cannot think of anything more callous and selfish to do to someone who is dreaming of, and working so hard, to bring a child into this world. I am so saddened for you that someone has betrayed you in this way. But trust me, she cannot take your dream away. Her child may walk around in your borrowed name, but the child of your dreams is still on the way. And anyone who doesn't believe in that dream--who can show you in such a blatant, nasty way how much they don't believe in it--doesn't deserve to take up space in your life.Yolandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12388052616712145572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-28934668337355868112009-10-10T11:10:40.704-05:002009-10-10T11:10:40.704-05:00I have an award for you waiting at my blog :-)I have an award for you waiting at my blog :-)Circus Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201859855761532276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-10002064687240206842009-10-08T23:23:37.474-05:002009-10-08T23:23:37.474-05:00I am FURIOUS at the person who stole your chosen n...I am FURIOUS at the person who stole your chosen name. Especially because she knew it was yours. I don't mean to be crass, but I just want to say: WHAT A BITCH. That was a violation and you have every right to be angry. Does the friend know that you are going through IF? Are you close friends? Is she generally not the most thoughtful person? I am just not impressed with this person.<br /><br />With every baby born this past summer, I because totally anxious that they would pick our names. I hadn't shared our names, but was irrationally nervous that out of all the names out there, they'd pick ours.<br /><br />The remainder of your post was also just so thoughtful. I second what Meg said - it resonated with me like a sonic boom. It truly did.<br /><br />Sending you hugs.FET Accomplihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022601632796340799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-15972645386076110252009-10-08T14:51:35.333-05:002009-10-08T14:51:35.333-05:00Oh Jaymee. WHAT a violation! I would be stark ra...Oh Jaymee. WHAT a violation! I would be stark raving MAD, just like you are. The least this "friend" could have done would have been to discuss the possibility of the name with you before the birth of her daughter, to get your input. Even then, I would have been PISSED!<br /><br />The rest of your entry resonated with me like a sonic boom. Infertility is the nastiest, most unrelenting of thieves. Know that I share your anger and utter disgust with you. *hugs*Meg.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00362604475161394470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-52130302560805916342009-10-08T08:53:21.046-05:002009-10-08T08:53:21.046-05:00Yep, that's what I was going to suggest - just...Yep, that's what I was going to suggest - just use your name anyhow. It's not like it's your sibling who stole it, where having two first cousins with the same name might be weird. Heck, that friend may not be such a close friend any more anyways after the betrayal of your trust, so your kids might not end up being around each other much.<br />Still, it sucks!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15805727250430361509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-21623234370045967922009-10-08T06:57:58.496-05:002009-10-08T06:57:58.496-05:00first: AAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGH!!!!!!!
had to get th...first: AAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGH!!!!!!!<br /><br />had to get that out. <br /><br />second: i'm so glad you're keeping the name. <br /><br />even though our paths are different this post spoke to me, as yours always do, to a part of me that not many people know or both to understand. i have these thoughts all the time.. particularly about who won't be around when we finally have a child.. like helo's mom.. if i had been able to get pregnant our child would have at least been held by her. it's beyond unfair to the point of utter frustration. <br /><br />oh i wish i could hug you!! {HUGS}athenahttp://mystuffandthings.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-89418141848245602842009-10-08T06:31:01.870-05:002009-10-08T06:31:01.870-05:00Jaymee, I am amazed at the insightful way you are ...Jaymee, I am amazed at the insightful way you are able to look at things despite the pain this moment brought you. Many people never would have looked beyond the surface pain in order to realize the real source of their sorrow.<br /><br />{{{Hugs}}}Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5998353539575924667.post-24771058243047187372009-10-08T05:07:44.969-05:002009-10-08T05:07:44.969-05:00Jaymee, such a moving and soulful post. I recogniz...Jaymee, such a moving and soulful post. I recognize all the emotions behind your strong words about the loss of time.<br />I cannot believe your "friend" stole your little girls name. In my book that's like kicking someone who's already down. Sorry, I don't mean to add to your anger, I'm just saying I'm pissed with you!!<br /><br />Big hug to you and good on you that you're sticking with the name regardless of your friends betrayal.Circus Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201859855761532276noreply@blogger.com