At the speed of light

Remember when I said there was still A LOT to be done, well I tried to do it all in a week. Suddenly, I have lists of things to do and I never make lists. Most of the time I am flying by the seat of my pants, it is a good day when I get out of the house with matching clean socks and all my junk. I know enough to know that surrogacy cannot be accomplished by doing things on the fly.

My RE, who I loved, told me that he would not do the transfer. I was so angry at him for going back on his word. Then I realized that it was better for everyone to have a doctor who was comfortable with the situation. It is easy to forget just how unique surrogacy is in the world. Being in the middle of the process, which is so all consuming, can make you lose perspective fast. Having others put this fact into perspective makes me want to fight them, until I realize that we are doing something that does not happen everyday. Further, we are doing something that many people do not even begin to understand.

I had to find us a new clinic and fast. Luckily, I have many wonderful people in my corner that helped me do this. I contacted the clinic on Friday and we have our phone consultation on Thursday. There is a ton of paperwork to fill out and most of it is complete. As much as I hate paperwork, this was better and worse all at the same time. I got to the "mother/wife/female partner" section and just started filling it out, I have filled out so many of these forms it was just natural. Then it hit me, they really do not need my information, other than why I cannot carry, all of my medical history is irrelevant. Wow, that was a huge moment. A year ago I would have sobbed for hours over that realization, now I am just happy to move on and that it takes a lot less time. The sting was there for a fleeting moment and then it was nothing but happiness and knowing just how fortunate I am that such wonderful women exist.

Lawyers, my favorite subject. We have the contracts, to write the contracts. These go out tomorrow. This decision was not hard, meeting our attorney was the only good thing to come out of the whole bad agency insanity.

Then one thing I was sure was finished suddenly needed to be redone. We had finally decided on an egg donor, after almost a year. I called the agency to let them know that we had our surrogate. They in turn informed me that our chosen donor had been diagnosed with Hep C. Therefore, it was back to the drawing board. Surprisingly, we have found two strong possibilities and it only took us a day and a half.

I feel like I really got a lot accomplished this week. This is funny because I also know this will look like nothing a month or two from now.

On top of this I turned 33 on Saturday. Helped write adoption policy and procedure where I am interning. Best of all I got accepted to grad school. The program that I am doing will be finished by the time the baby is born, because I got advanced standing. Plus, it will keep me so busy that I will not have time to sit and wait for the baby to be born, you know kind of like watching water while trying to get it to boil.